From the time you are born, you grow and change. You are not the same person you were yesterday or the day before. Sometimes change happens naturally and sometimes you are striving to change for health or well-being, or to better your situation.
When you falter or you don't make progress as quickly as you think you should (instantly and flawlessly) the abuse begins - the internal brow beating that you are so good at giving yourself. Magnifying your "failure" and denying any sense of accomplishment at all.
Imagine if instead of talking yourself into giving up hope, you could have the same dialogue internally that you would have in supporting your best friend? Kind and considerate words of encouragement. Cheering yourself on as you navigate the journey that is life. Loving. Supporting. Encouraging. Imagine self-talk that lifts you up, carries you forward, and adds fuel to your fire.
Two things have happened in the last couple month that without another thought, I would have let them slide by, unconnected and independent of each other. The first was a room full of educators that listened respectfully and intently as I spoke of my recent work. The next was a couple of weeks later as I did some housework with my hair up and in my sweats, kicked on a podcast to “keep me company” as I did my chores.
The podcast – The Influencer – had a business coach as a guest and as they explored her story of how she had come to do this line of work and eventually what she offered clients, nothing grabbed my attention until she explained that she began with drilling down into the “why did you start your company?” Yes to be self-employed. Yes to have flexible hours. But why this business.
That’s when I began to think of all those people who begin a business, a career, a mission. To move toward a “life’s work” instead of having just a job or career. To choose what they do because they want to make a difference. Drilling down to the big WHY THIS, to the simplest core. So once I answered that question for myself – I wanted to give to children tools for life, so they don’t need to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms, so they have solid self-esteem, and can manage what life throws at them. And so, you might ask, what does that have to do with a room full of teachers? There they are, by choice, sometimes overworked, underappreciated and, let's face it, not the career if your aspire to drive a Lamborghini.
Sometimes life just takes us and leads us to a job, career, situation and it’s good, we do our best and are grateful , we may even find our calling or just really enjoy what we do.
But tell me if you have choose what you do or if you could choose, what would it be and why?
Rosy Window Staff