From the time you are born, you grow and change. You are not the same person you were yesterday or the day before. Sometimes change happens naturally and sometimes you are striving to change for health or well-being, or to better your situation.
When you falter or you don't make progress as quickly as you think you should (instantly and flawlessly) the abuse begins - the internal brow beating that you are so good at giving yourself. Magnifying your "failure" and denying any sense of accomplishment at all.
Imagine if instead of talking yourself into giving up hope, you could have the same dialogue internally that you would have in supporting your best friend? Kind and considerate words of encouragement. Cheering yourself on as you navigate the journey that is life. Loving. Supporting. Encouraging. Imagine self-talk that lifts you up, carries you forward, and adds fuel to your fire.
Two things have happened in the last couple month that without another thought, I would have let them slide by, unconnected and independent of each other. The first was a room full of educators that listened respectfully and intently as I spoke of my recent work. The next was a couple of weeks later as I did some housework with my hair up and in my sweats, kicked on a podcast to “keep me company” as I did my chores.
The podcast – The Influencer – had a business coach as a guest and as they explored her story of how she had come to do this line of work and eventually what she offered clients, nothing grabbed my attention until she explained that she began with drilling down into the “why did you start your company?” Yes to be self-employed. Yes to have flexible hours. But why this business.
That’s when I began to think of all those people who begin a business, a career, a mission. To move toward a “life’s work” instead of having just a job or career. To choose what they do because they want to make a difference. Drilling down to the big WHY THIS, to the simplest core. So once I answered that question for myself – I wanted to give to children tools for life, so they don’t need to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms, so they have solid self-esteem, and can manage what life throws at them. And so, you might ask, what does that have to do with a room full of teachers? There they are, by choice, sometimes overworked, underappreciated and, let's face it, not the career if your aspire to drive a Lamborghini.
Sometimes life just takes us and leads us to a job, career, situation and it’s good, we do our best and are grateful , we may even find our calling or just really enjoy what we do.
But tell me if you have choose what you do or if you could choose, what would it be and why?
What are you grateful for?
Embracing all that we have and being truly grateful leaves little room for dwelling on what we might perceive as a lack. Gratitude for the connection we have with others, no matter if it is short or long, for our homes, big or small, our holiday fair, a snack or a feast.
Gratitude simply invites more opportunities of contentment, joy and feeling blessed.
Studies have shown that being grateful can improve; relationships, self-esteem, mental strength, physical & psychological health, enhance empathy and reduce aggression.
Share with us in the comments below! - What are you grateful for today?
Check out Amy Morin’s article “7 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Gratitude That Will Motivate You To Give Thanks Year-Round” at forbes.com for more info on the benefits of gratitude.
Some say the secret lies with the "3 Day Rule", put your toddler in underwear and schedule frequent visits to the potty using a timer. Deal with a couple days of wiping up puddles and a few extra loads of laundry. Try not to pull your hair out on the morning of day 3, and by that evening, voalá! Post your diaper pail on the swap 'n' shop and give your wipe warmer to your pregnant sister, no more diapers for you!
Ahhh, what a nice thought. So simple, so elegant. But perhaps you found that this method didn't quite suite your non-conformist little one.
Perhaps after some late-night googling, you decided to try the "No one is angry, accidents happen, but we will clean you up with this chilly wet cloth." or the "Good girl using the potty! Let me reward you with one of these sugary treats that I have to talk myself out of eating late at night when I'm exhausted from a day of dealing with other peoples bodily fluids." methods.
"No, Jimmy, a pull-up is not just 'cool underwear you can pee in'."
The struggle is real.
What worked for you?
Please comment and share with us your potty training tips and tricks and your stories of successes (and your stories of failure - especially the ones that are funny now, but weren't at the time).
Rosy Window Staff